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The Hidden Dark Side of Charles and Diana’s Relationship

History Stories April 04, 2017

The Hidden Dark Side of Charles and Diana’s Relationship

The weddings of the House of Windsor have captivated worldwide attention throughout the 20th Century and into the 21st, from Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Phillip to Prince William and Catherine Middleton.
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    The Hidden Dark Side of Charles and Diana’s Relationship

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      Tiffanie Darke

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      The Hidden Dark Side of Charles and Diana’s Relationship

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      August 18, 2018

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      A+E Networks

According to Bedell Smith, the trouble started even before they were married. Charles, it seems, stumbled into the marriage—press speculation of their affair reached such fever pitch that his father, Prince Philip’s, advice to either end the relationship or propose, forced Charles into the betrothal. But it was far from happy. Diana was paranoid that the Palace was trying to control her and that Charles was still seeing his former flame Camilla. On the way back from the second dress rehearsal of their wedding, Bedell Smith says Diana wept copiously in the car. By the honeymoon, the relationship had soured further – Diana would weep in her bedroom, and flounce out of dinner with the Queen and family (a shocking breach of protocol). Suffering from insomnia “and growing thinner by the day” the princess’s eating disorders and tendencies for self-harm became apparent.

Prince Charles kissing Princess Diana following a polo match in June 1985. (Credit: Tim Graham/Getty Images)

“‘What is it now, Diana?’ Charles would implore. ‘What have I said now to make you cry?’” reports Bedell Smith. “Again and again, he reassured her that his affair with Camilla Parker Bowles was in the past. He tried soothing Diana, but felt powerless to contain her emotional storms, which shocked him in their intensity and suddenness. At his wits’ end, he began seeking refuge in the Balmoral countryside with his paint-box, books, fishing rod and guns, but that only made his young wife even more aggrieved.”

Older mentors recommended Charles arrange psychiatric help, and even suggested valium—but Diana refused the drug, according to the author, “convinced in her growing paranoia that the Royal Family was trying to sedate her.”

Charles and Diana meet the press at Balmoral in May 1981, weeks before their wedding. (Credit: Tim Graham/Getty Images)

Eventually a therapist was summoned, a Dr. Alan McGlashan, but Diana rejected him. Instead it was Charles who turned to his help, and according to the author, Charles continued to see him for the next 14 years. “Charles’s friend Laurence Van der Post says McGlashan perceived Charles as ‘misunderstood and starved’ of ‘really spontaneous, natural affection’, and provided the prince with ‘the respect his own natural spirit deserves’.”

The book goes on to detail the princess’s jealous rages and desire to pick arguments and fights. Bedell Smith says the prince told his cousin Pamela Hicks, that “Diana would resurrect a row with him even when he was saying his prayers. She ‘would hit him over the head’ while he knelt.”

Previous accounts of Diana’s life have taken in her mental instability. In Andrew Morton’s famous biography, (which Diana eventually admitted colluding in), Morton reports she attempted suicide several times and suffered repeatedly from bulimia, self-mutilation, depression and acute anxiety.

Prince Charles And Princess Diana kissing on the balcony of Buckingham Palace on their wedding day, July 29, 1981. (Credit: Tim Graham/Getty Images)

Bedell Smith lays the blame for both parties’ emotional inadequacies on their upbringing. “Diana was tormented by feelings of emptiness and detachment; she feared abandonment; she had difficulty sustaining relationships; and she kept those closest to her on tenterhooks,” writes Bedell Smith. “Ultimately, out of frustration, they abandoned her.”

Further revelations about Diana’s rages—which resulted in her throwing herself downstairs whilst pregnant, and slashing herself with razors, shards of glass and knives in front of her husband – paint a picture of a deeply disturbed woman, a long way from the ‘Queen of Hearts’ and ‘People’s Princess’ that was to become her legacy in the immediate aftermath of her death.

One of the prince’s former advisers tells Bedell Smith that after meeting Diana, he remembered thinking: ‘There is a rod of steel up this woman’s back.’ Diana’s father, Earl Spencer, later confirmed as much when he said: ‘Diana is very determined indeed and always gets her own way. I think Prince Charles is learning that by now.’

Princess Diana and Prince Charles during a 1991 trip to Canada. (Credit: Tim Graham/Getty Images)

Diana’s hostility towards Charles is not spared by Bedell Smith. She hated all of his hobbies, his polo, his paintings, his gardening, even his love of Shakespeare, according to the author. “Diana taunted him by saying, ‘You’ll never be King,’ and banished many of his old friends — including the Romseys, the Palmer-Tomkinsons and the Tory MP Nicholas Soames. Resenting anything associated with Charles’s previous life, she also insisted on getting rid of Harvey, his yellow labrador, who was sent to live with one of the prince’s advisers.”

Eventually, the couple took separate bedrooms—“At Highgrove, that entailed Charles moving into a dressing-room to sleep on a single bed, along with a well-worn teddy bear,” Bedell Smith writes.

Prince Charles And Princess Diana on their last official trip together, in November 1992. (Credit: Tim Graham/Getty Images)

As a last attempt at reconciliation, the Archbishop of Canterbury was sent in, but, according to the author, he “saw ‘little evidence’ that Diana ‘was prepared to make the marriage work’ and concluded ‘with some sorrow that Charles was more sinned against than sinning’.”

When separation was finally advised, Bedell Smith says “Everyone in Charles’s family took his side, including Princess Margaret, who had previously shown kindness, even tenderness, to Diana. Prince Philip sent his son a long letter, praising his ‘saint-like fortitude’.”

National newspapers blast headlines on December 21, 1995 with news of the queen’s orders that Charles and Diana divorce. (Credit: JOHNNY EGGITT/AFP/Getty Images)

In separation, their relationship apparently mellowed, with Charles sometimes dropping in to see her and consulting her about their sons. But as Bedell Smith writes: “When Charles heard the news about Diana’s death while being driven through a Paris tunnel with Dodi, he was distraught. At 7.15 am, when his sons awoke, he told them what had happened.”

Later, lashed with grief, self-pity and regret, the prince turned to his courtiers. ‘They’re all going to blame me, aren’t they?’ he said plaintively.”

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